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Hahaha! A friend of mine, a guy, is a therapist. He sees a lot of couple and he's concluded that a majority of the issues are more down to the men than to the women. That's just been his experience over many years of providing therapy.

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I wasn’t going to go there with this particular post, but this does not surprise me at all. It goes back to a post I wrote a couple weeks ago… men are socialized to act entitled and to exploit women’s labor in relationships. Then in therapy, women often need to act as though this is just our perspective or the story we’re telling ourselves.

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My favourite scene from Ozark is when the husband — who has been paying the marriage counselor to take his side — confronts her for not being more explicit about it. The moment when he realises his wife has been paying her too and is righteous about her being so unethical to take money from her without telling him (before quickly realising he hasn't a leg to stand on) is brilliant.

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I would go straight back to counseling school if I could be that kind of counselor when I went into practice.

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Gosh this sounds like the most fun profession! What a wonderful thing to read this morning, thank you!

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Right? Don't we all want to get paid for telling jerks that they're jerks? Genius!

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This is hilarious! Thank you. It’s the funniest thing I’ve read since the one about the husband signing the permission slip. 💙

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"Most people kind of suck." 😂🤣🤣 This is hilarious, thanks for sharing!

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I literally lol’ed at this piece. Thank you!

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😂😂you just made my day …. I could totally see this happening, people saying: well, there’s an idea ….a bit scary :))

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"But, she said, “considering the social forces that have led to significant increases in people sucking, this might be a direction that more marriage and family counselors will need to explore moving forward.”"

Slayed me. A little laughing dilutes the cortisol surges. Good job, Kerala <3

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That was my favorite line, too! Glad you got a laugh out of it.

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This is satire and also so right on. I’m glad you let some humor rip 🙏🏼

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Very funny! Don’t we all wish for this service sometimes?!?

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Brilliant 🤣🤣🤣

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Hilarious! And a little worrisome…

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I find this sad.

I think in probably most cases- these people know the relationship is over, but they need a stranger to tell them they are right in order to confidently move forward with no regret.

That’s a hefty price tag and a long time wasted when there are no guarantees in life- for validation.

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Love this. The mystery is how two people can live together for five years and insist on two different versions of what went down. Who is right and who is wrong?

Sex & Checks offers amusing vignettes on dating and what happens next.

https://jeffreyckeith.substack.com/p/sex-and-checks-tales-of-love-and

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