I hosted a few of my daughter's friends for a birthday celebration last weekend. Most of them are 9. I made an obstacle course for them that included tackling a couch cushion. I was surprised, and frankly a bit delighted, at how much rage came out of them toward the couch cushion. But that got me thinking of how few other ways they can express that anger without harsh penalty...Anyway, strongly considering inviting moms and daughters over to assault the couch cushions and punching bag again sometime soon :)
I think the same thing when I see two girls going for a jump ball in my daughter's basketball games. It's like all the aggression they don't feel allowed to otherwise express just comes pouring out. Not in a mean way, a fierce way. I love it!
Love this! As someone whose entire personality and newsletter is about shaking up the status quo, I am 100% here for it! Life is so much better when we do it on our own terms!
I had a lot of anger to process when I was recovering from PTSD. A lot of my relief was found in discovering what was actually behind the anger and giving those feelings a chance to be in the open. As I feel myself building up my rage again in this stage of my life, I wonder if I can allow those behind-the-scenes feelings to come out again?
The Secret Side of Anger is a good book for exploring rage.
Oooh I'm getting in touch with my anger as well, and my parents/siblings/grandparents are NOT happy. In fact, I think they're kind of scared!
My grandpa (a well-resesrched powerful man in our little small town community) has been telling people I was mean to him, after 1 phone call with him where I 1) did not call him names 2) did not yell or swear at him and 3) tried to hold him accountable for the things he's done and continues to do that has hurt his granddaughters. But no, I'm the problem for hurting his feewings....
Okay, vent over! 🤪 Thanks for writing this and congratulations on feeling your anger and not tamping it down!
Thank you for writing about rage for women. I've always thought it's something we don't give ourselves permission to feel. Like you, I gave myself permission to feel the rage in 2024 and man, it's liberating.
This is perfectly timed for me. Just this week I had decided to express my anger when I feel it rather than bottling it up. Highly recommend the book "Rage Becomes Her" if you aren't already familiar with it.
I hosted a few of my daughter's friends for a birthday celebration last weekend. Most of them are 9. I made an obstacle course for them that included tackling a couch cushion. I was surprised, and frankly a bit delighted, at how much rage came out of them toward the couch cushion. But that got me thinking of how few other ways they can express that anger without harsh penalty...Anyway, strongly considering inviting moms and daughters over to assault the couch cushions and punching bag again sometime soon :)
I think the same thing when I see two girls going for a jump ball in my daughter's basketball games. It's like all the aggression they don't feel allowed to otherwise express just comes pouring out. Not in a mean way, a fierce way. I love it!
I read somewhere that women's rage is about to be seismically released in 2025. Damn I hope that's true!
Love this! As someone whose entire personality and newsletter is about shaking up the status quo, I am 100% here for it! Life is so much better when we do it on our own terms!
I had a lot of anger to process when I was recovering from PTSD. A lot of my relief was found in discovering what was actually behind the anger and giving those feelings a chance to be in the open. As I feel myself building up my rage again in this stage of my life, I wonder if I can allow those behind-the-scenes feelings to come out again?
The Secret Side of Anger is a good book for exploring rage.
Oooh I'm getting in touch with my anger as well, and my parents/siblings/grandparents are NOT happy. In fact, I think they're kind of scared!
My grandpa (a well-resesrched powerful man in our little small town community) has been telling people I was mean to him, after 1 phone call with him where I 1) did not call him names 2) did not yell or swear at him and 3) tried to hold him accountable for the things he's done and continues to do that has hurt his granddaughters. But no, I'm the problem for hurting his feewings....
Okay, vent over! 🤪 Thanks for writing this and congratulations on feeling your anger and not tamping it down!
Ugh. Well-respected, NOT well-resesrched 🤪
Thank you for writing about rage for women. I've always thought it's something we don't give ourselves permission to feel. Like you, I gave myself permission to feel the rage in 2024 and man, it's liberating.
This is perfectly timed for me. Just this week I had decided to express my anger when I feel it rather than bottling it up. Highly recommend the book "Rage Becomes Her" if you aren't already familiar with it.